Love is the Ultimate Commitment
Lisamarie Deleon
When we say we love someone and we are in a committed relationship it is a beautiful thing, but saying it is one thing. Have you ever heard of the phrase "Actions speak louder than words"? When it comes to truly being committed to your partner it's all about the work you put in to your relationship. The ultimate commitment is the time, dedication and work you put behind it. This means being willing to work on yourself, your partner and working together.
The first part of commitment is being willing to work on yourself. You have to know how you work, inside and out so when it comes to communicating that to your partner you will know how. Part of working on yourself means knowing your love language. It means knowing if you are from Mars or from Venus which will clear up how and why we act and react to the things we do. If you like to read you know that I am talking about the two famous books the "5 love languages", written by Gary Chapman and "Men are from Mars, Women Are From Venus", written by John Gray. If you are not a reader that is okay too because I am sure someone you know, knows these two books. If you know someone who has read these books I would ask them to explain or even pull it up on youtube.You can also go online to their website where they have tons of quizzes and more. It is no easy task working on ourself and one thing that is overlooked by many. If you don't understand what makes you work, how can your partner?
Your partner is the next part of showing you are committed. It is equally important to learn how your partner works. I know that may seem obvious but how many times have you gotten into a disagreement because you were trying to get your partner to understand you instead of the other way around? Now that doesn't mean you have to always agree with your partner, it just means you need to work on being understanding. Take the time to understand your partners love language, and how the receive love. Another great book that has taught me a lot was "Love Dare" written by Alex and Stephen Kendrick. This book talks about putting your partner first without expecting anything in return. Talk about ultimate commitment, I mean that is talking about "Agape" kind of love, which means selfless love. I will say though that this kind of love is the best kind of love. It may not seem like you are getting anything out of Agape but remember, this is about showing your partner you love them and nothing more.
Even after having all the knowledge from some of the greatest relationship books there is, there's still more to learn. Once you learn how you work, and how your partner works, now you two must make the ultimate commitment to finding out how to make it all work together. The best way to do that is through communication, dedication and compromise. Communication is one of the most important things to work on in order to make all of this work. Understand that communication is equal parts of listening as much as it is about talking. Dedication means that no matter what happens, if things don't go the way you think it will, try again. Dedication means figuring things out until you get it right. Compromise is a great tool to meet in the middle and work through anything together. Compromise doesn't mean one person is right or wrong, it means you are learning to work together.
Love is the Ultimate commitment because it is much like school. Love isn't a quick and easy task or something you learn overnight. Love is like school, where you pass one grade only to go to the next. You didn't go through Kindergarten to 5th grade, just to stop there. In fact we go to school most of our lives, well in to college and sometimes even more. That is the same thing when it comes to love, we just keep working and moving to the next grade and learning as much as we can; to get better, smarter and further.
I hope that this post encourages you to work on your commitment to your partner and take the time to figure out how to communicate and work together. Remember to work on yourself, communicate and work on learning your partner, then learn to work together.
Lisamarie is constantly uplifting and applauding people online, and is a perfect fit as a contributor to this series. She is a life coach that specializes in financial assistance, and eduction. You can see her amazing website and blogs by clicking the link below!
